The very short answer is "Yes it can." I did not set out to get my ex back in the beginning. We had separated when we were both very young and had been lovers for only two short years. We had difficulties communicating with each other and as much as we loved each other, we did not know how to tell the other what was on our minds. Therefore, we went our separate ways - and, not without a lot of heartbreak, I might add.
We lived separate lives for nearly 25 years, not ever getting in touch and never a day going by that there was not a thought about the other. So, how did we get back together? I called my ex one day out of the blue. I was not happy how we had left things when we separated and felt there was unfinished "business." In all the years apart, I did not find "my soul-mate" and eventually realized that I had found him all those years ago. But, was I too late? What was happening in his life right then?
Oddly enough, when I called him we were both coming out of bad relationships. My aim was to touch base and if nothing else gain some closure. The thing was that he had never stopped loving me but I had told him to go away and pride stopped him from coming back. I had never stopped loving him and had thought he would not come back, too.
He came to the phone warily but as we chatted, it became apparent that there were things left unsaid and feelings unresolved. We tentatively kept the lines of communication open and gradually we both got to a place where we were willing to risk rebuilding our relationship. This meant that we needed to choose to trust each other as we had both been very hurt when we broke up the first time, and we were not about to go through that again.
But, we did.
A short two years after our marriage, he left. We had started taking each other for granted and our expectations were not being met. We began treating each other with less respect and shades of our previous relationship was coming back to haunt us.
The pain this time round was no less bearable than the first. I felt as if I had nothing left to live for, even though I had by this time, a grown family. One of my children was a great support and in her own quiet way was there when I needed her.
Did we get back together a second time? Yes.
I learnt something very valuable while we were separated the second time. He could not be perfect and he could not be my whole world. I needed to love and accept him for who he was and treat him as I would my best friend. Regardless of his behavior, I chose to treat him with kindness and respect. I found a soft answer turned away his frustration and anger.
As I was his best friend, he became mine. We fell in love again, and are in the process of falling in love again every day.
Can you get your ex back, even after years apart? Yes, you can.
Does the time frame matter too much? No, not really. What matters most is that there is still a spark of love between you and finding out what your lover needs and giving it to them.
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